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Planning Tips

To help you get started on your planning journey, we have compiled a list of things to consider.  Hopefully these items will give you the confidence you need to push ahead with your plans to elope in Japan.

​Things to Consider

​Each season brings something different

Cherry Blossom

Few things are more  iconically Japanese than Cherry Blossom! They are simply stunning, and evoke such wonderfully positive emotions and create special memories which are stirred every year during sakura season.   All things considered then, it is not surprising that Cherry Blossom  season is perhaps the busiest time of year in the wedding calendar.  

It is worth noting then that cherry blossom tends to bloom at different times throughout Japan (the following dates from 2020 forecasts):

  • Okinawa, Southern Kyushu starts blooming around 25th  January - full bloom around  2nd February

  • Fukuoka, Kyushu starts blooming around 21st March - full bloom around 30th

  • ​Kyoto, Kansai starts blooming around 19th March - full bloom around the  28th

  • Tokyo, Kanto starts blooming around the 14th March - full bloom around the 26th

  • Niigata, starts blooming around 29th March - full bloom around the 4th April

  • Sendai, starts blooming around 30th March - full bloom around the  4th April

  • Sapporo, Hokkaido, starts blooming around 29th April - full bloom around 3rd May

Golden Week

A series of public holidays in the first week of May encourages many workers up and down the country to get a few days of paid leave to make a week of vacation time off work - hence "Golden Week."  This coincides with a general warming of the weather and is naturally a great time to elope.  However, this also means that venues and vendors charge premium prices for events at this time, and hotel cost also jump.  We strongly advise avoiding this week altogether, but the rest of May is just as good!

 

 

August

This  month sees much of Japan endure extremely hot and humid weather - think 35 degrees and 80 + percent humidity!   When you consider that and the fact that it is high tourist season, in our opinion, it is probably best to try to avoid this month.​​​

Momiji

​This is Japanese Maple and is also used as a catch all to describe autumn leaves.  Much of Japan and Japanese gardens in general are simply stunning during this period, which is a personal favorite of ours.   ​

New Year

New Year has as much importance to the Japanese as Christmas does to most western cultures.  Shrines will be focussed on celebrating the season.  Therefore, few, if any, will be open to hosting weddings during this time.  Many secular venues will likely be closed too.  ​

When is the best time of year to elope?

Each month has its charm

January

New Year Celebrations, most shrines unable to perform wedding ceremonies at this time. However, non-shinto venues will be  open for winter weddings; the perfect time to get some snow!

 

February/March

Cold, but beautiful in the mountains with wonderful powder snow in places like Nagano and Sapporo.

 

March/April

Cool! In mid-March to the beginning of April, a chance of coinciding with the cherry blossom.  This is also a very busy/popular time of year for Japanese, so most shrines and venues with good cherry blossom views book up years in advance.

May

The first week of May is Golden Week - a series of consecutive public holidays - meaning many Japanese take paid holiday on either side to make a week long period off work.  This is a very busy time of year for weddings and as with Cherry blossom season, venues book out well in advance.  High season in Japan – higher than usual accommodation costs.

June

Getting warm, but not too hot; beautiful flowers and greenery – an all round good time to get married, if you don't mind a chance of rain.  Rainy season typically starts in June, running to around mid July.

 

July

Starting to get Humid, still a chance of rain. Recent years have seen heat waves in this month.

August

Very hot and Humid; high travel season, expensive accommodation costs.  We tend to try to avoid events during this month.

September

Starting to cool down, but can still be hot. There is also a chance of typhoons and rain.

 

October

Perfect temperatures.  Not summer weather, but not quite fully autumn yet.  The leaves, for the most part will not have started changing yet,  but you might get some early "Momoji"  (autumn leaves).

 

November

Getting cooler, but not unpleasantly so, and from around the  middle of November, “momiji” is in full swing..

 

December

First two weeks OK, with the momiji around until early to mid month.  From around the 15th shrines tend to start preparing for the New Year Celebrations.  From the 28th December ~ 3rd or 4th January, most venues will be closed.  It will be challenging to find a venue open to hosting a wedding at this time – and will incur higher than usual planning costs.

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FAQs

​ELOPEMENT
or
WEDDING?

What is the difference between an Elopement, Micro-Wedding and a Wedding?

We define an Elopement as a small, intimate marriage ceremony and photo shoot involving the couple and up to ten guests. It does not include reception or party planning, rehearsal dinners, or full-scale wedding coordination. The typical duration is around five to six hours.

 

Micro-Wedding includes all the elements of an elopement, with the addition of up to 20 guests. This often involves more detailed guest logistics—such as transportation coordination and light crowd management.

 

Wedding refers to a full-day event with full coordination, including reception party planning and more than 20 guests.

 

Please note: As of Autumn 2024, we no longer offer full Wedding Planning services. Our focus is on Elopements and a limited number of Micro-Weddings.

LEGAL

Can we have our marriage legalized in Japan?

Yes you can, but we don’t recommend it.  Getting a marriage license involves going to the embassy and the city hall.  Sometimes, it involves multiple trips to the city office, to confirm and clarify questions they may have. 

That said, we are happy to help with the legal paperwork, but with a big disclaimer – we cannot guarantee that the embassy nor the city office will grant the license; this is out of our control.

Some embassies are able to perform legally recognized wedding ceremonies.  However, if you choose to have your wedding legally recognized the Japanese way, it will involve a trip to a city hall after obtaining notarial documents from your embassy.  We will be on hand to help and guide you through the process, which is different from nationality to nationality, so please contact us for further information.​​ 

CEREMONY

Is the ceremony in English or Japanese?

If the ceremony is held at a Shrine, it will be in Japanese.  At all other locations it can be in any language you choose, as long as the officiant is able to do so.

 

Can we say our own vows?

In a Shinto ceremony, you are given a Japanese script (romanized) to read off, but for all other ceremonies, you can write and recite your own vows.  We strongly recommend you do so.  This is the heart of the ceremony; the more personalized, the better!

Can we bring our own officiant?

Yes, as long as the venue is open to this, we will support your choice of officiant.

However, if the ceremony is at a shrine or temple, we must use a Shinto priest or buddhist monk respectivel, otherwise, we are happy to work with officiants you prefer, regardless of faith or denomination. ​​

VENUES

What kind of venues do you work with?

We work with a carefully curated selection of intimate, authentic, and culturally rich venues across Japan, but primarily in Tokyo and Kyoto. These include serene shrines, historic temples, scenic gardens, and private villas.

 

Many of our venues are not traditional wedding venues, which means they may not offer standard guest facilities such as waiting areas or on-site refreshments. We encourage each couple to thoughtfully consider whether these unique spaces are the right fit for their needs and vision.

Can we get married in a public park or Japanese Garden?

Public spaces and gardens are subject to strict permits.  While we can get permits for pre/post wedding photo-shoots in public spaces, we are unable to get permission for ceremonies.  All ceremonies must be held in private venues and spaces.

 

How much do private venues cost?

Prices vary from venue to venue, but range from around ¥50,000 up to ¥250,000.  ​​

What is the capacity of venues in Japa?

Japanese venues are generally smaller than western wedding venues.  A wedding with 70 guests is considered a big event here.  Most venues won't be able to cater for much more than that.  . 

ATTIRE

​​Can we wear western wedding attire at a shrine?

This is dependent on the shrine, and would have to be confirmed with each individual shrine we talk to.

Can we buy the kimonos?

The vendors we tend to use rent out their kimonos.  If you want to buy, we would have to do a bit of research with other suppliers.  Please note, the cost of new kimonos range from as little as ¥300,000 ($2711) to as much as ¥10,000,000 ($90,393 at the time of writing).  However, it is possible to obtain second hand Kimonos at a much lower price.

Can we get kimonos for my parents and guests?

Yes.  All kimonos need to be fitted by someone who knows what they are doing.  So, depending on where that happens, we may or may not be able to attend the fitting with the parents and/guests.  On the wedding day, our priority is the couple.  We will present a list of options, with which your guests can use to make a decision.​​

GUESTS

How many guests can we invite?

For elopements the guest number is usually quite low, up to ten.  Please note that many Shrines request an additional guest attendance fee, usually a flat fee of about ¥30,000. 

If you are not having a shrine elopement, depending on the venue and the size of the space, we may also request a guest attendance fee.

Any guest count of more than 20 will be considered a full wedding.  

RECEPTION

Can we have a reception at a shrine?

Some shrines have the facilities to host receptions.  However, if you are thinking of having a reception you will need to upgrade to a full wedding rather than just elopement.  Elopement packages take care of the ceremony and preparations only.  Anything else requires full wedding planning services.

 

That said, for those who want to celebrate with dinner, we can help you find a nice restaurant to round off the day, but we will not be able to attend.  

HAIR & MAKEUP

Is hair and makeup included?

Yes, we can arrange for this, but this is always optional.  Hair and makeup prices tend to start at ¥35,000 + tax and transaction fees.

PHOTOGRAPHY

Can we bring in our own photographer/videographer?

Unfortunately, no.  To ensure compliance with Japanese regulations related to work permits, customs, and immigration, and to maintain the cultural integrity and smooth execution of your event, we work exclusively with a trusted network of pre-approved vendors.

 

These vendors are not only legally authorized to work in Japan but also bring the cultural awareness and professionalism necessary to meet the expectations of our partner venues—and to uphold the standards we hold ourselves to.

How soon and how do we receive the photos?

This is different per photographer and their schedule.  Sometimes we receive them within four days of an event, at others as much as three weeks. 

Our photographers deliver the photos direct to us, which we then deliver to the client via Drop Box. 

Given the distance this has proved the easiest, quickest and cheapest way.  Couples can then choose which photos to print through a local printing company.

HOTELS
&
RESERVATIONS

Can you book accommodation for us and our guests?

This is unfortunately something we are not legally able to do.​

What we can do however, is present a list of hotels that we recommend – but please be sure to do your own research, and ask your guests to do the same, before booking any hotels, hostels or holiday rentals.

That said, some hotel venues will offer discounts for their wedding clients and any guests, this is an agreement that the couple will enter into with the hotel/venue.  We will help you to understand the terms of the agreement, but we cannot make the decision for you.

Can you make restaurant reservations for us?

In most cases, we’re unable to make restaurant reservations on your behalf. Many restaurants in Japan require bookings to be made directly by one of the diners—often through an online system, and sometimes with a credit card.

 

While we can’t always secure the reservation for you, we’re more than happy to provide personalized recommendations to help you find the perfect spot.

BELIEVE IT OR NOT,
WE HAVE BEEN
ASKED THIS!

Can we have a western wedding at a shrine?

No.  This is akin to expecting a Catholic Church to host a Jewish wedding.  People of any faith or no faith are welcome to get married at a shrine as long as they follow and respect the shinto way of doing things while they are there.

GENERAL ADMIN QUESTIONS

How do we pay?

There are three ways to pay:

  • For those living Japan and with a Japanese bank account, a direct wire transfer is the easiest way.

  • For those living abroad, you can either use PayPal, which enables credit card transactions, or Wise, which allows you to transfer directly from your non-Japanese bank account to ours.

How far in advance can/should we book?

We recommend booking at least 10 months in advance to give us the best chance of securing your preferred venue and date.  That said, we’ve successfully planned events with as little as a week’s notice. While we don’t recommend cutting it that close, if you’ve left things late, don’t worry—we’ll still happily consider your inquiry.  Just keep in mind that availability may be limited, and we can’t make any guarantees.

Are you contracted to/with any particular venues and vendors?

No.  While we do have favorite venues we like to use repeatedly, we are not contracted to or with anyone. That said, as stated above, we work with an exclusive selection of pre-approved vendors in whom we have complete faith to add the magic and sparkle your day deserves. 

Why is the planning fee more expensive for elopements and vow renewals outside Tokyo?

Quite simply, this is because we have to cover our transportation and possibly accommodation fees.  We are based in Tokyo, so any event outside the city will incur travel costs and, if necessary, hotel stays.

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